In as much as sharing a secret can be a way to show someone that you trust them, showing how much you care about them, keeping secrets can also help to keep relationships strong to some extent by providing a level of closeness that other forms of communication cannot provide.
Some thriving relationships and marriages have fallen apart like Sierra’s April flood that pours in ponderous cadence from the cliff. Their reasons for collapsing are attributed to the decisions made by either of the lovebirds, to unveil secrets of ages.
It therefore means healthy relationships require a balance between closeness and separateness.
Are we promoting keeping secrets between partners? The answer is a big ‘No.’ It’s all about maintaining the sacredness of your personality.
So what things should you keep away from your relationships?
Details of Your Sexual Experience
Oftentimes, it’s hardly possible to conceal sharing nice experiences including those intimate experiences we’ve had in our previous relationships. However, you need to keep away from going beyond the borders to get to the extent of enumerating even the finest details.
Some of us, especially men, do surpass tethering the amount of information we need to feed our current partners. They reach to the level where they even disclose a full list of all the people they’ve ever slept with.
This is so simple to deal with, you just need to know that whenever we allow someone into that vulnerable side of ourselves, these are problems we are inviting. If maybe your spouse gives you a condition that you need to cough all your dark past to them, to gain their trust, just let them be for someone who doesn’t want to trust you for who you are today, you don’t need them by in your life.
Inside Details of Your Spiritual Life.
There are times when you’re dealing with personal issues and struggles regarding your faith. I would advise you to make such prayers in private so that your confessions and requests in prayer aren’t heard by anybody else.
Remember, as far as your spiritual life is concerned, you have faced temptations some of which pertain to backsliding that won’t be understood by your partners. Therefore, your confessions on these should be between you and God without disclosing to anyone, unless you’re surely convinced that your spouses appreciate the power of conviction and repentance.
Therefore, this is the other place where you’re completely open and vulnerable.
Disclosing Every Infatuations You Outside
Meeting people whom you like doesn’t end when you settle into marriage or relationships it keeps piling up immediately after you feel like settling in love. Truth be said, love by nature is territorial and the moment your partner learns about infatuations you’re holding for others, they may feel you aren’t gratified by their presence in your life. They won’t easily understand that these are common experiences in life.
Now that you know, try and act on what you feel is important and safer for your relationship.